Meet ya-ya. Ya-ya has been in the family since the planning of Katie’s nursery. She’s tattered. She’s torn. She loved. She’s adored. Honestly I’d have gotten 20 of them if I knew she’d still be around.

What’s your comfort? What do you take refuge in? What’s your ya-ya? I don’t mean something material. That’s too easy. What’s that “thing” you rest it? You zone out to. You chose not to take action because this is easier to chose. Your go-to. You’re starting to get a little itchy now right? “This took a turn. I didn’t know she was gonna take it there.”

Is it waiting till the kids go to bed..finally and watching Dateline and eating a sleeve or Oreos? Is it going to bed early and then watching TikTok for 2 hours? Is it catching up on celebrity gossip instead of calling a friend? True crime podcasts excery day instead of Mel Robbins or something else uplifting.? Is it cleaning your house obsessively to avoid the tasks you really need to do? (That is definitely not me) Maybe it’s shopping. Overspending is much more fun and working on a budget. Is it the mommy wine culture? One glass on Friday night turns into two glasses on Tuesday?

Let’s flip the script. You can’t change everything overnight. You can’t avoid every stressor. You can’t control others but you can chose you. Let’s all stop pretending everything is fine. Let’s all move out of the #blessedlife. Let’s stop hiding. Let’s lift each other up. Let’s find a healthier “ya-ya” that serves you. You’re better than that. You’re here for better.